Natalie Lane Eden, LLC - Fully licensed Faith-Based Clinical Counseling
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Thriving, coping skills, fight or flight, abundant life

Suffering Unleashes Love

The Question. Often while sitting in the psychological counselor’s chair a very common question emerges:
 
“Why does God allow these bad things to happen?" 
 
There are many similar takes on this question such as:
 
 “Why does this happen to such an innocent child?”
 
“If we have such a good God, then why is there so much suffering in this world?”
 
“If God was on the Cross for so manyhours,then why has my relative been afflicted with this or that ailment for so many

SLEEP ETIQUETTE: FOR THOSE WHO HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING

Make your bedroom a comfortable place.  Blankets, bed covers, and mattress should be cozy and inviting. Get extra pillows. Keep it clean and tidy and introduce pleasant smells such as a drop of lavender oil on the sheets and bring in pleasant sounds from nature or white noise.
           
Do not bring electronics to bed.  Turn off the phone, IPad, computer, and even the TV.  A modern problem that interferes with a good night’s sleep is binge watching videos and programs in bed.

Tips for Life’s Journey: Along the Camino de Santiago de Compostela

Markers along the Way of Santiago de Compostela
My husband, my daughter, and I embarked upon the journey of a lifetime early this summer from June 13 through June 23, 2015. In celebration of our 30th wedding anniversary, we set out to walk the last leg of the Portuguese Way of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela. The route began in Tui, Spain with its destination ending in Santiago de Compostela, traditionally the location of the crypt and remains of St. James, the Apostle.  This segment of the Camino is approximately 100 kilometers.

The history of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela dates back well over 1000 years with Christians making this pilgrimage since the Middle Ages.

Impossible Situations and a Saint to Overcome Them

Do you face an impossible situation that appears to be hopeless?  

Do you have feelings of desperation, depression, and even thoughts of giving up?  

Situations crop up in many people's lives that appear to have no relief in sight.  However you are not alone, there is a saint in the Catholic Church that endured multiple lost causes.  Although her experiences occurred hundreds of years ago, her methods of overcoming are still applicable for us today.  And they are quite simple with help from God.

In the Dead of Winter

A solo train leaves the station in Chicago during winter

In the dead of winter
 
This time of year always makes me think about the season.  How can I ignore it?  In Chicago the air is usually bitter cold.  I’m not talking about it being a little bit chilly.  It’s downright frigid with temperatures preferring to hover in the subzero range.  At times it is difficult to appreciate the present moment, when I find myself counting the number of months left until spring.  Navigating the highways can be quite a challenge.  Every trip out whether on foot or in a vehicle means risk to one’s body and property.

On the Tragic Loss of a Child: The Feast of the Holy Innocents

The Feast of the Holy Innocents
 
A person that loses a partner is called a widow.
A child who loses a parent is called an orphan.
But there is no word to describe a parent that loses a child,
Because the loss is like no other. ..”
(Paraphrased from “An Orphan’s Tale, by J. Neugeboren, 1976)
 
Parental grief
Recently, there has been a lot of talk about the loss of innocent children, particularly in light of the mass shootings in Sandy Hook, New Jersey. There are no words to describe the grief that a parent experiences after the loss of any child.

After a Tragedy: Helping Your Family Cope with Anxiety and Stress

(The following was obtained from information obtained from PEP, the Parent Encouragement Program, located in Kensington, Maryland in the Washington, DC area.  This organization's focus is helping parents to develop parenting skills.)
 
“After a tragedy like today’s school shooting, parents are frequently faced with the dual challenges of having to manage their own stresses and anxieties while at the same time trying to do their best for their children. As we support our children, we must not forget to get the support that we need, too.

Beyond Lives of Quiet Desperation: Moving from Surviving and Coping to Really Thriving

(c) Bernard Eden.  A peaceful setting in Hawaii.  Thriving means being content in whatever situation we might find ourselves.  Thriving is also taking time to be in wonder at nature and in awe of God.
 
 
What is it to reallythrive?
 
Do you feel as though life has been passing you by? Are you waiting for your ship to come in? Do you find yourself asking if this is all there is to life?
 
Not long ago I was flipping through channels on the television when I chanced upon a point in a program where someone was saying that his or her objective in life was much more than just survival and coping with circumstances. This person wanted to reallythrive. What is it to really