“I Want to Forgive But I Still Have Pain.”
frequently comes up during in the course of counseling. Many have injuries from past and even current
relationships that continue to cause pain thus hindering advancement to fuller
productive lives. The desire to move on is
present but former feelings of being hurt, mistreated, ignored, and/or
neglected keep cropping up causing re-injury.
The desire to eliminate these sensations and memories is strong but for
some reason there is an inability to move on.
Another date crossed out on the calendar as I approach another year of my journey. Over a half of a century is definitely in my rear view mirror. I do know that in many ways my “inside self” still feels like that young somewhat carefree girl that once played on the fields of Western New York. It is only when I look in the mirror that I am reminded by my “outside self” that I have been travelling for quite a while.
What have you learned?
When my spouse was a young boy his mother would always have devotions before school with her children.
“A person that loses a partner is called a widow.
A child who loses a parent is called an orphan.
But there is no word to describe a parent that loses a child,
Because the loss is like no other. ..”
(Paraphrased from “An Orphan’s Tale, by J. Neugeboren, 1976)
Recently, there has been a lot of talk about the loss of innocent children, particularly in light of the mass shootings in Sandy Hook, New Jersey. There are no words to describe the grief that a parent experiences after the loss of any child.
Recently I ran across a news network that gave us five important things that we need to know, listing the top five news stories for the day. This gave me the idea to contemplate and ponder what are the five most important things to know that would be helpful for us in our daily lives. Here is what I came up with:
1. Things and people are not always what they appear.
In the psychological realm.We all have encountered the situation where someone appears on the surface to be quite happy when in reality they are actually quite sad, miserable, and even depressed.