The Question. Often while sitting in the psychological
counselor’s chair a very common question emerges:
“Why does God allow these
bad things to happen?"
There are many similar takes on this question such as:
“Why does this happen to such an innocent child?”
“If we have such a
good God, then why is there so much suffering in this world?”
“If God was on the
Cross for so manyhours,then why
has my relative been afflicted with this or that ailment for so many
Make your bedroom a
comfortable place. Blankets, bed
covers, and mattress should be cozy and inviting. Get extra pillows. Keep it clean and tidy and introduce pleasant
smells such as a drop of lavender oil on the sheets and bring in pleasant sounds from
nature or white noise.
Do not bring
electronics to bed. Turn off the phone,
IPad, computer, and even the TV. A
modern problem that interferes with a good night’s sleep is binge watching
videos and programs in bed.
husband, my daughter, and I embarked upon the journey of a lifetime early this
summer from June 13 through June 23, 2015. In celebration of our 30th wedding
anniversary, we set out to walk the last leg of the Portuguese Way of the
Camino de Santiago de Compostela. The route began in Tui, Spain with its
destination ending in Santiago de Compostela, traditionally the location of the
crypt and remains of St. James, the Apostle. This segment of the Camino is approximately
history of the Camino de Santiago de Compostela dates back well over 1000 years
with Christians making this pilgrimage since the Middle Ages.
The Best Laid Plans…
We’ve all experienced it. We
make plans and nothing seems to go the way that we anticipated. “The best laid plans of mice and men often go
awry,” is an often repeated quote from the Scottish poet Robert Burns. Wiktionary states that it is an “expression used to signify the futility of
making detailed plans when the outcome is uncertain.” The truth of the matter is that nothing is
certain. Sacred Scripture states that
the“The wind blows wherever it pleases.
“I Want to Forgive But I Still Have Pain.”
frequently comes up during in the course of counseling. Many have injuries from past and even current
relationships that continue to cause pain thus hindering advancement to fuller
productive lives. The desire to move on is
present but former feelings of being hurt, mistreated, ignored, and/or
neglected keep cropping up causing re-injury.
The desire to eliminate these sensations and memories is strong but for
some reason there is an inability to move on.
What does a Carmelite nun who lived during the late 1800s in France
have to do with overcoming the obsession thoughts and/or compulsions that are
symptomatic of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)? St. Therese (1873-1897), whose writings
composed the beautiful autobiography “The Story of a Soul”, died of
tuberculosis as a young adult, yet her message endures to this day. She was declared a Doctor of the Catholic
Church in 1997 because of her simple yet profound approach to the spiritual
Do you face an impossible situation that appears to be hopeless?
Do you have feelings of desperation, depression, and even thoughts of giving up?
Situations crop up in many people's lives that appear to have no relief in sight. However you are not alone, there is a saint in the Catholic Church that endured multiple lost causes. Although her experiences occurred hundreds of years ago, her methods of overcoming are still applicable for us today. And they are quite simple with help from God.
Another date crossed out on the calendar as I approach another year of my journey. Over a half of a century is definitely in my rear view mirror. I do know that in many ways my “inside self” still feels like that young somewhat carefree girl that once played on the fields of Western New York. It is only when I look in the mirror that I am reminded by my “outside self” that I have been travelling for quite a while.
What have you learned?
When my spouse was a young boy his mother would always have devotions before school with her children.
Encountering a decision whether big or small can often bring about a
great amount of anxiety. At times
indecision can destroy inner peace and can even have a major crippling effect
on one’s spiritual welfare as well as psychological progress. Procrastination is often caused by inability
to make a decision for fear of failure.
Perfectionists are known to be diagnostically the worst procrastinators
simply because of the fear of making a mistake. These persons are experts at
In the dead of winter
time of year always makes me think about the season. How can I ignore it? In Chicago the air is usually bitter cold. I’m not talking about it being a little bit
chilly. It’s downright frigid with
temperatures preferring to hover in the subzero range. At times it is difficult to appreciate the
present moment, when I find myself counting the number of months left until spring. Navigating the highways can be quite a
challenge. Every trip out whether on
foot or in a vehicle means risk to one’s body and property.